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The inertia of cohabitation: a couple who is cohabiting will have a harder time breaking up than a couple who is only dating

Cohabiting relationships break up all the time, and increasingly so, but the relative difference is the point. All other things being the same, a couple who is cohabiting will have a harder time breaking up than a couple who is only dating.

Because many people cohabit before even having mutual clarity about commitment, such as through engagement or marriage, some people end up staying in relationships, including on into marriage, that they otherwise would have left behind.

Many people slide into situations that make it harder to end a relationship before they have made a clear decision about what is best. The situation looks quite a bit different for those who have strongly clarified mutual commitment to the future before moving in together, such as by being engaged or even—gasp—being married.

Reference: Testing a Relationship Is Probably the Worst Reason to Cohabit by Scott Stanley.

Scott M. Stanley is a research professor at the University of Denver and fellow of the Institute for Family Studies (@DecideOrSlide). Galena K. Rhoades is a research associate professor at the University of Denver.

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This “success sequence” – high school, marriage, and only then baby carriage – holds true today

This “success sequence” – high school, marriage, and only then baby carriage – holds true today, where women are three times more likely to have babies out of wedlock than three wealthier peers. Poor women are five times more likely than wealthy women to have babies outside marriage. Both poor and middle class women are twice as likely to be cohabiting than their richer sisters (McLean, D.C., 2017).

Marriage has a “extraordinary economic power,” Stanton wrote. “It boosts every important measure of well-being for women, children and men.” That includes income, health, savings, employment, educational success, happiness, recovery from serious illness – even a healthy diet.

Marriage creates wealth because marriage encourages partners to become better, more committed workers, providers and savers. Men particularly are less likely to fall into substance abuse, and are less likely either to commit or fall victim to crime, they have better health and they’re even less accident-prone.

Source: McLean, D.C., 2017: Research proves social conservatives right: Marriage helps families escape poverty.

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www.lifesitenews.com/news/reseach-proves-social-conservatives-right-marriage-helps-families-out-of-po

Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.

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Marriage has a “extraordinary economic power”

In the early 1990s, sociologist Bill Galston said that to stay out, or climb out, of poverty, people needed to do only three things:

  1. graduate from high school
  2. marry before having a child, and
  3. have that first child after the age of 20.

Only 8% of people who follow these rules will be poor, Galston claimed, whereas 79% who fail in all three respects will certainly live in poverty.

Will the pending change to the Marriage Act and ongoing legislative debate, Australia has an opportunity to strengthen what it means to marry and regardless of the outcome, enabling people who choose to have children, to be aware of the potential negative consequences is necessary.

This “success sequence” – high school, marriage, and only then baby carriage – holds true today, where women are three times more likely to have babies out of wedlock than three wealthier peers. Poor women are five times more likely than wealthy women to have babies outside marriage. Both poor and middle class women are twice as likely to be cohabiting than their richer sisters (McLean, D.C., 2017).

Source: McLean, D.C., 2017: Research proves social conservatives right: Marriage helps families escape poverty.

READ THE FULL ARTICLE HERE >

www.lifesitenews.com/news/reseach-proves-social-conservatives-right-marriage-helps-families-out-of-po

Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.

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The Change Model: Goal-oriented – stay focused on the positive

Don’t let yourself get weighed down by a bad day or a bad week.

Acknowledge and give yourself and each other credit for the efforts and changes you’ve made. Compliment each other, thank each other, encourage each other!

The CHANGE Model can help you develop an action plan for your relationship goals with six easy steps:

5. Goal-oriented – stay focused on the positive.

Through careful planning and constant assessment and re-evaluation of your plans, you know where you are going, you can plan where you are heading and you take time to see the bigger picture. This leads to a clear understanding of goals, dreams and your vision as a couple. Continually encourage each other and stay focused on the positive.

Source: The Couple Checkup Book ©2008

PREPARE/ENRICH is celebrating its 35th Anniversary, but perhaps you are a marking a milestone anniversary this year as well. Anniversaries are times to not only celebrate and reflect on how far you’ve come over the years, but also to establish hopes, goals, and resolutions for the year to come.

#PREPARE/ENRICH is a customised online assessment tool that identifies each couples unique strength and growth areas. Based on their assessment results, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills.

For more information on PREPARE/ENRICH or to simply set up a couple on the tool, please contact: http://www.prepare-enrich.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #prepareenrich

The Change Model: Never give up – even if you experience setbacks!

The thing about relationships is they are always a work in progress! Expect that the road will twist and turn but never give up, use setbacks as an opportunity to learn and grow.

Get to know your strengths and growth areas and those of your partner and accept that it takes effort, planning and persistence in general, but particularly during the tough times.

The CHANGE Model can help you develop an action plan for your relationship goals, with six easy steps:

4. Never give up – even if you experience setbacks!

Inevitably, life happens, and after weeks of great progress you may suddenly find yourselves back at square one (or even square zero!). If you use setbacks as opportunities to learn and grow together, you will always be on a path toward a stronger relationship.

Have you experienced these challenges before? Perhaps there are things to celebrate also. Make time to not only celebrate and reflect on how far you’ve come over the years, but also to establish hopes, goals, and resolutions for the year to come.

Get started today and develop an action plan for change.

Tune in for step three next week.

Source: The Couple Checkup Book ©2008

#PREPARE/ENRICH is a customised online assessment tool that identifies each couples unique strength and growth areas. Based on their assessment results, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills.

For more information on PREPARE/ENRICH or to simply set up a couple on the tool, please contact: http://www.prepare-enrich.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #prepareenrich

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National Marriage Week: 10-16 September 2017

Marriage Week celebrates the diversity and vibrancy of marriage as the basis for family life and is a brilliant institution that all of society should celebrate.

‘……Marriage is a vehicle of change and of life. Marrying involves a commitment to living and therefore to change. It offers unending possibilities of self-discovery and discovery of the significant other…’

Don Burnard – Family Relationships Institute.

Marriage is not for everyone. But for those that seek successful marriage and a fulfilling family life in which to raise healthy and happy children, functional families are seen as the bedrock of successful societies.

According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics dated November 2016, there were 113,595 marriages registered Australia wide in 2015 and whilst declining (a

decrease from 2015 by 7,602 – down 6.3%), t

he average length of marriage has increased from 10.7 years in 1993 to 12.1 years in 2015.

In the latest census data, the median age for women was 29.8 years and for men getting married was 31.8 years.
81.1% of brides and 79.1% of grooms were marrying for the first time.
16.3% of the marriages included one partner who had been married before.

In the 2016 census data, 74.9% of

wedding ceremonies were conducted by a marriage celebrant. In 2011, 73% of wedding ceremonies were conducted by a marriage celebrant, with the remaining 27% by a religious organisation.

Marriage Week is a time to say “Wake up. Marriage is a great idea”, and since a healthy marriage is a skill, let’s learn some new skills to turn our marriages from good to great!

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The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy.

The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.

For more information on the use and analysis of the Couple Checkup or to simply use the tool, please contact: www.couplecheckup.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #couplecheckup #strongerrelationships

The Change Model: One baby step at a time

On the surface, big-picture goals can seem daunting. Where do you even begin? What small, simple things can you and your partner do each day to work toward your goal? Think about all the tasks that go toward achieving your goal. Break down the larger goal into bite-size chunks.

The CHANGE Model can help you develop an action plan for your relationship goals in 2017, with six easy steps:

3. Action – one step at a time.

Small and thoughtful gestures can have exponentially positive effect. Perhaps you log into your Netflix account and make sure the next movie that arrives is one that your partner casually mentioned he/she wanted to watch (show them you were listening!).

Maybe you treat yourselves to takeout one evening if one or both of you has had a long day and don’t feel like cooking—not only can you relieve some of your partner’s stress, but you create an opportunity for quality time while sharing a meal.

Get started today and develop an action plan for a successful relationship.

Tune in for step four next week.

Source: The Couple Checkup Book ©2008

#PREPARE/ENRICH is a customised online assessment tool that identifies each couples unique strength and growth areas. Based on their assessment results, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills.

For more information on PREPARE/ENRICH or to simply set up a couple on the tool, please contact: http://www.prepare-enrich.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #prepareenrich

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