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The Change Model: Goal-oriented – stay focused on the positive

Don’t let yourself get weighed down by a bad day or a bad week.

Acknowledge and give yourself and each other credit for the efforts and changes you’ve made. Compliment each other, thank each other, encourage each other!

The CHANGE Model can help you develop an action plan for your relationship goals with six easy steps:

5. Goal-oriented – stay focused on the positive.

Through careful planning and constant assessment and re-evaluation of your plans, you know where you are going, you can plan where you are heading and you take time to see the bigger picture. This leads to a clear understanding of goals, dreams and your vision as a couple. Continually encourage each other and stay focused on the positive.

Source: The Couple Checkup Book ©2008

PREPARE/ENRICH is celebrating its 35th Anniversary, but perhaps you are a marking a milestone anniversary this year as well. Anniversaries are times to not only celebrate and reflect on how far you’ve come over the years, but also to establish hopes, goals, and resolutions for the year to come.

#PREPARE/ENRICH is a customised online assessment tool that identifies each couples unique strength and growth areas. Based on their assessment results, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills.

For more information on PREPARE/ENRICH or to simply set up a couple on the tool, please contact: http://www.prepare-enrich.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #prepareenrich

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The Change Model: Never give up – even if you experience setbacks!

The thing about relationships is they are always a work in progress! Expect that the road will twist and turn but never give up, use setbacks as an opportunity to learn and grow.

Get to know your strengths and growth areas and those of your partner and accept that it takes effort, planning and persistence in general, but particularly during the tough times.

The CHANGE Model can help you develop an action plan for your relationship goals, with six easy steps:

4. Never give up – even if you experience setbacks!

Inevitably, life happens, and after weeks of great progress you may suddenly find yourselves back at square one (or even square zero!). If you use setbacks as opportunities to learn and grow together, you will always be on a path toward a stronger relationship.

Have you experienced these challenges before? Perhaps there are things to celebrate also. Make time to not only celebrate and reflect on how far you’ve come over the years, but also to establish hopes, goals, and resolutions for the year to come.

Get started today and develop an action plan for change.

Tune in for step three next week.

Source: The Couple Checkup Book ©2008

#PREPARE/ENRICH is a customised online assessment tool that identifies each couples unique strength and growth areas. Based on their assessment results, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills.

For more information on PREPARE/ENRICH or to simply set up a couple on the tool, please contact: http://www.prepare-enrich.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #prepareenrich

More tips at Intentional-Relationship.com

National Marriage Week: 10-16 September 2017

Marriage Week celebrates the diversity and vibrancy of marriage as the basis for family life and is a brilliant institution that all of society should celebrate.

‘……Marriage is a vehicle of change and of life. Marrying involves a commitment to living and therefore to change. It offers unending possibilities of self-discovery and discovery of the significant other…’

Don Burnard – Family Relationships Institute.

Marriage is not for everyone. But for those that seek successful marriage and a fulfilling family life in which to raise healthy and happy children, functional families are seen as the bedrock of successful societies.

According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics dated November 2016, there were 113,595 marriages registered Australia wide in 2015 and whilst declining (a

decrease from 2015 by 7,602 – down 6.3%), t

he average length of marriage has increased from 10.7 years in 1993 to 12.1 years in 2015.

In the latest census data, the median age for women was 29.8 years and for men getting married was 31.8 years.
81.1% of brides and 79.1% of grooms were marrying for the first time.
16.3% of the marriages included one partner who had been married before.

In the 2016 census data, 74.9% of

wedding ceremonies were conducted by a marriage celebrant. In 2011, 73% of wedding ceremonies were conducted by a marriage celebrant, with the remaining 27% by a religious organisation.

Marriage Week is a time to say “Wake up. Marriage is a great idea”, and since a healthy marriage is a skill, let’s learn some new skills to turn our marriages from good to great!

Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.

Tune in for more tips next week… or contact me Shane Smith shane@intentional-relationship.com or @ http://www.workofheart.net.www.workofheart.net.au

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Take the Couple Checkup

Take the Couple Checkup

Simply click on the Register button below relevant to your relationship – it couldn’t be easier. Once you have finished the questions you should receive your comprehensive personalised report in about 30 seconds.

Take the Couple Checkup

The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy.

The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.

For more information on the use and analysis of the Couple Checkup or to simply use the tool, please contact: www.couplecheckup.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #couplecheckup #strongerrelationships

The Change Model: One baby step at a time

On the surface, big-picture goals can seem daunting. Where do you even begin? What small, simple things can you and your partner do each day to work toward your goal? Think about all the tasks that go toward achieving your goal. Break down the larger goal into bite-size chunks.

The CHANGE Model can help you develop an action plan for your relationship goals in 2017, with six easy steps:

3. Action – one step at a time.

Small and thoughtful gestures can have exponentially positive effect. Perhaps you log into your Netflix account and make sure the next movie that arrives is one that your partner casually mentioned he/she wanted to watch (show them you were listening!).

Maybe you treat yourselves to takeout one evening if one or both of you has had a long day and don’t feel like cooking—not only can you relieve some of your partner’s stress, but you create an opportunity for quality time while sharing a meal.

Get started today and develop an action plan for a successful relationship.

Tune in for step four next week.

Source: The Couple Checkup Book ©2008

#PREPARE/ENRICH is a customised online assessment tool that identifies each couples unique strength and growth areas. Based on their assessment results, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills.

For more information on PREPARE/ENRICH or to simply set up a couple on the tool, please contact: http://www.prepare-enrich.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #prepareenrich

More tips at Intentional-Relationship.com

The Change Model: Habits – out with the old, in with the new

Couples are using the internet and mobile technology to communicate with one another, to keep up-to-date with information and news about others. Combined with the ease of access to these communication mediums and their instant and constant influence over couple relationships, its presence and impact cannot be underestimated or ignored.

With over 62% of Australian internet users on social sites such as Facebook and Twitter and average usage at >6hrs/month on social sites and rising (53% women and 47% men), there is little wonder that social usage will be a problem for some relationships.

The CHANGE Model can help you develop an action plan for your relationship goals, with six easy step:

2. Habits – out with the old, in with the new

Is the myriad of today’s electronic devices an ever-present distraction in your home? Do your smartphones have a place at your dinner table? Is your television on more than it is off

Take breaks from electronic devices and make time for focused attention on one another. You might not even realise how ingrained these habits have become, until you consciously try to break them!

Have you experienced these challenges? Perhaps there are things to celebrate. Make time to not only celebrate and reflect on how far you’ve come over the years, but also to establish hopes, goals, and resolutions for the year to come.

Get started today and develop an action plan for change. Tune in for step three next week.

Source: The Couple Checkup Book ©2008

#PREPARE/ENRICH is a customised online assessment tool that identifies each couples unique strength and growth areas. Based on their assessment results, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills.

For more information on PREPARE/ENRICH or to simply set up a couple on the tool, please contact: http://www.prepare-enrich.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #prepareenrich

More tips at Intentional-Relationship.com

The Change Model can help you develop an action plan for your relationship goals with six easy steps

Anniversaries are times to not only celebrate and reflect on how far you’ve come over the years, but also to establish hopes, goals, and resolutions for the year to come.

The CHANGE Model can help you develop an action plan for your relationship goals with six easy steps:

1. Commit to a Specific Goal:

First thing’s first. What is your goal? Perhaps you want to become a better listener for each other, or make one-on-one quality time more of a priority, or maybe you just want to improve the overall closeness in your relationship.

Make time with your partner to reflect on a goal that is Specific, be able to Measured to indicate progress, is Achievable, is Realistic and can be achieved within a Time frame (SMART) that is comfortable for you and your partner.

Get started today and develop an action plan for change. Tune in for step two next week.

Source: The Couple Checkup Book ©2008

#PREPARE/ENRICH is a customised online assessment tool that identifies each couples unique strength and growth areas. Based on their assessment results, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills.

For more information on PREPARE/ENRICH or to simply set up a couple on the tool, please contact: www.prepare-enrich.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #prepareenrich
More tips at Intentional-Relationship.com

Australian Census Statistics on marriage and divorce 2016

Marriage is not for everyone. But for those that seek successful marriage and a fulfilling family life in which to raise healthy and happy children, functional families are seen as the bedrock of successful societies.

But whilst attempted by many, many fail.

According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics dated November 2016, there were 113,595 marriages registered Australia wide in 2015.

The number of marriages decreased in 2015 by 7,602 – down 6.3%. In 2011 there where 123,244 marriages, with 72% being a first marriage and 28% a remarriage, with the brides median aged 29 and grooms 34.

In the latest census data, the median age for women was 29.8 years and for men getting married was 31.8 years.

  • 81.1% of brides and 79.1% of grooms were marrying for the first time.
  • 16.3% of the marriages included one partner who had been married before.
  • Marriages where both partners had been married before were at 11.7%.
  • Couples who lived together prior to marriage accounted for 81%
  • 54.2% of couples married in 2015 were both born in Australia.
  • Out of the couples married in 2015 31.9% were born in different countries.
  • 13.9% were born in the same overseas country.

In the 2016 census data, 74.9% of

wedding ceremonies were conducted by a marriage celebrant. In 2011, 73% of wedding ceremonies were conducted by a marriage celebrant, with the remaining 27% by a religious organisation.

The average length of marriage has increased from 10.7 years in 1993 to 12.1 years in 2015 with the median age of divorce females 42.9 and 47 for males. And remarriages do not fair much better, with a greater proportion more likely to divorce than those who had not been previously married.

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Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.

Tune in for more tips next week… or contact me Shane Smith shane@intentional-relationship.com or @ http://www.workofheart.net.www.workofheart.net.au
More tips at Intentional-Relationship.com

Take the Couple Checkup

Take the Couple Checkup

Simply click on the Register button below relevant to your relationship – it couldn’t be easier. Once you have finished the questions you should receive your comprehensive personalised report in about 30 seconds.
Take the Couple Checkup

The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy.

The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.

For more information on the use and analysis of the Couple Checkup or to simply use the tool, please contact: www.couplecheckup.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #couplecheckup #strongerrelationships