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Intentional-Relationship.com is a destination designed to assist you towards growing stronger, healthier, happier relationships at Home, at Work and in the Community. The relationship and advise on offer aims to ensure you begin and remain intentional about making your family, work and community relationships a priority.

Family and relationship services may increase protective factors for children and families at high risk of health and social problems

Family and relationship services and relationship-based prevention and early intervention programmes can address many risk processes that lead to health and social problems, while also building supportive relationships.

Social attachments and support have been described as important protective factors for ensuring mental health, wellbeing and quality of life. Commonly cited as a buffering mechanism against the experience of stressful and adverse life events, social support is often provided within social networks (Heerde, Toumbourou, Hemphill & Olsson, 2015) to provide mutual assistance and support to manage and reduce the impact of stressful events.

Social support lends itself to the potential role of family and relationship services intervening early at the onset of problems and have been associated with reduced anxiety (e.g. Lewinsohn, Gotlib, Lewinsohn, Seeley & Allen, 1998), depressive symptoms (e.g. Stice, Ragan & Randall, 2004), suicidal ideation (Sheeber, Hops, Alpert, Davis & Andrew, 1997) and substance use (e.g. Wills & Vaughan, 1989).

Many cost-effective family and relationship services have an explicit role in building social support to assist individuals and families through vulnerable life transitions.

Family and relationship services play a vital role in reducing health and social problems by:

  • assisting family members to understand and better develop social supports required for health and wellbeing;
  • and building social network for people that are vulnerable by virtue of problems such as an absence of parent role models.

Many of the health and social problems Australia currently faces are preventable. Focused support of the Family and Relationships Services sector can reduce the risks that lead to wider health and social problems, while also building supportive relationships.

Source:

  • Toumbourou, J., Hartman, D., Field, K., Jeffery, R., Brady, J., Heaton, A., Ghayour-Minaie, M., & Heerde, J. (2017). Strengthening prevention and early intervention services for families into the future. Deakin University and Family and Relationships Services Australia (FRSA)

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Psychologically healthy children with stable childhoods do better as adults

In the report The Cohabitation-Go-Round: Cohabitation and Family Stability Across the Globe, marriage is proported as the best framework for adults and their children, based on the mountain of social science demonstrating it.

When people have children, most want the best for those children. Sometimes having an intact family is outside parents’ control, and we certainly need to look at how to increase the chances for positive outcomes for children with single mothers and unmarried, cohabiting parents. With clear data that marriage is best for kids, though, all sexually active adults of childbearing age need to consider whether their decisions will create a safe space for any child they have.

The research findings suggest that children are likely to be safe from abuse and neglect when they’re born to married parents, and less likely to have problems with stress and trouble in school. The research goes on to say that psychologically healthy children with stable childhoods do better as adults.

Instead of starting kids out disadvantaged, children are given the best chance at success when their parents are married.

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The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy.

The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.

For more information on the use and analysis of the Couple Checkup or to simply use the tool, please contact: www.couplecheckup.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #couplecheckup #strongerrelationships

Children born to single mother households are 9 times more likely to have at least one family transition before the age of 12

In the report The Cohabitation-Go-Round: Cohabitation and Family Stability Across the Globe, it comes at a time when an ever-increasing number of children find themselves born into families that aren’t legally bound together by marriage. This is a new trend in the western world, and it’s being widely researched: in the US “…between the 1970s and the early 2000s, the percentage of women who got married by the time their first child was born fell by half, according to research by Jonathan Vespa, Ph.D., a demographer with the U.S. Census Bureau, and Kimberly Daniels, Ph.D., of the National Center for Health Statistics. The percentage of unmarried pregnant women who lived with their baby’s father by the time of the birth jumped from 8 percent to 28 percent. Says Dr. Vespa, ‘It’s been a record transformation.’ In Australia, one-parent households make up 16% of all households with 2011 ABS data citing 1 in 5 households being headed by a single parent.

Sometimes having an intact family is outside the parents’ control, and we certainly need to look at how to increase the chances for positive outcomes for children with single mothers and unmarried, cohabiting parents.

Adults cite many reasons for delaying or avoiding marriage, from simply not wanting to get married, to avoiding sharing bad financial credit, or not believing that marriage makes a relationship more secure. Women also increasingly feel that marriage isn’t needed to make them financially secure. Cultural acceptance of premarital sex combined with contraception use also means people are more likely to have unmarried sex, which can actually increase birthrates to unmarried couples because no form of contraception prevents conception 100 percent.

While religious groups have long championed marriage as the best framework for adults and their children, secular organisations and researchers have in recent decades been noting the same thing based on the mountain of social science demonstrating it. Children are more likely to be safe from abuse and neglect when they’re born to married parents, and less likely to have problems with stress and trouble in school.

Children born to single mothers experience even more instability than children born to cohabiting couples, with children in single-mother households being 9 times more likely to have at least one transition before the age of 12. This study firmly shows that across the world marriage confers the best chances for stability for children.

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    The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy. 

    The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.

    For more information on the use and analysis of the Couple Checkup or to simply use the tool, please contact: www.couplecheckup.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #couplecheckup #strongerrelationships

    Children born to couples who are cohabiting are more likely to experience a “union transition” before they are 12

    A “union transition” is when their parent switches sex partners, which creates relationship instability in the family. This, in turn, raises the likelihood of issues such as emotional and behavioural challenges in both parents and children, higher rates of child abuse, and even higher risks for child mortality.

    In a recent study from the Institute for Family Studies (DeRose, et al, 2017) using data from 100 countries to demonstrate that families are more unstable when more children are born to unmarried parents or single mothers. In addition, detailed information from 68 countries shows that the growing numbers of couples choosing cohabitation rather than marriage increases the instability children experience in the early years of their life.

    The increased instability of non-marital childbearing persists regardless of the level of the mother’s education, meaning that even in well-educated families a lack of marriage hurts. The likelihood of instability varies by nation, but by-and-large the best chances for a stable and healthy childhood are found when parents are married before they conceive children.

    When children are born to couples who are cohabiting but not married, those children are more likely to experience what the report calls a “union transition” before they are 12 years old.

    “[C]ohabitation continues to confer a stability disadvantage on individual children even as cohabitation has become more normative,” the report says. “We find no evidence supporting the idea that in societies where cohabiting births are more common, marriage and cohabitation come to resemble each other in terms of stability for children.”

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      The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy. 

      The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.

      For more information on the use and analysis of the Couple Checkup or to simply use the tool, please contact: www.couplecheckup.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #couplecheckup #strongerrelationships

      Strengthening prevention and early intervention services for families into the future

      A recent report commissioned by Family and Relationships Services Australia (FRSA) titled Strengthening prevention and early intervention services for families into the future, investigates the current and future potential for the Family and Relationships Services sector to take a greater prevention and early intervention approach in service delivery.

      Many of the health and social problems Australia currently faces are preventable. The report aims to initiate a discussion as to how a coordinated strategy to increase family-based prevention and early intervention services could be utilised in Australia to prevent priority health and social problems. The report was completed by consulting expert opinions and drawing upon key policy documents, prior reviews and published sources.

      Eight priority health and social problems were identified based on evidence that they have a preventable component through the delivery of family and relationship services:

      1. substance abuse (costing at least $55bn annually
      2. antisocial behaviour (including violence and crime, costing $36Bn, with family violence contributing between $22 and 26Bn in 2015–16)
      3. Obesity ($21Bn)
      4. Mental illness ($8.5Bn in 2014–15; up $911 million from 2010–11)
      5. Developmental injury (e.g., foetal alcohol problems, child neglect and abuse leading to preventable disability)
      6. Chronic illness (including preventable Type 2 diabetes, cancer, cardiovascular disease, asthma, allergies)
      7. School failure (including leaving school and not participating in further education) and
      8. Social exclusion (lack of meaningful and constructive social and economic participation).

      Source: Toumbourou, J., Hartman, D., Field, K., Jeffery, R., Brady, J., Heaton, A., Ghayour-Minaie, M., Heerde, J. (2017). Strengthening prevention and early intervention services for families into the future. Deakin University and FRSA

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      https://frsa.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/FRSA-Research-Report-Printable.pdf

      Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.

        Tune in for more tips next week… or contact me Shane Smith shane@intentional-relationship.com or @ www.workofheart.net.www.workofheart.net.au

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        Take the Couple Checkup

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        Simply click on the Register button below relevant to your relationship – it couldn’t be easier. Once you have finished the questions you should receive your comprehensive personalised report in about 30 seconds.

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        The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy. 

        The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.

        For more information on the use and analysis of the Couple Checkup or to simply use the tool, please contact: www.couplecheckup.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #couplecheckup #strongerrelationships

        Mobile technology allows for ambient intimacy: to keep touch with one another with a level of regularity and intimacy

        Whilst some believe that online communication is the same as face-to-face, the lack of traditional rules and artifacts is impacting on couple communication. The term ‘ambient intimacy’ put forward by Lisa Reichelt, describes the way in which social media allows couples to ‘keep touch with one another with a level of regularity and intimacy that you wouldn’t usually have access to, because time and space conspire to make it possible’ (Threshold Dec 2011, pp8-10).

        Ambient intimacy might be one of the processes that underlie the formation and maintenance of relationships on social media. Previous researchers have shown that social media use can strengthen weaker relationships (Ellison, Steinfield, Lampe, 2007).

        This technology also creates difficult situations for couples involving emotional intimacy and fidelity, including the ease of access to personal details, the ease at which private communication can take place and access to pornography. Facebook is increasing cited in divorce proceedings in both the US and UK.

        Source:

        • Ellison, N. N. B., Steinfield, C., & Lampe, C. (2007). The benefits of Facebook “friends”: Social capital and college students’ use of online social network sites. Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication, 12
        • Reichelt, L. (2007). Ambient Intimacy. Disambiguity. Retrieved from http://www.disambiguity.com/ambient-intimacy/
        • Lin, R., Levordashka, A., & Utz, S. (2016). Ambient intimacy on Twitter. Cyberpsychology: Journal of Psychosocial Research on Cyberspace, 10(1), article 6.
        • Threshold Dec 2011, pp 8-10

         

        Read more: www.ifstudies.org/blog/technoference-in-parenting-is-your-mobile-device-distracting-you-from-your-child

        Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.

        Tune in for more tips next week… or contact me Shane Smith shane@intentional-relationship.com or @ www.workofheart.net.www.workofheart.net.au

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        Take the Couple Checkup

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        Take the Couple Checkup

        The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy. 

        The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.

        For more information on the use and analysis of the Couple Checkup or to simply use the tool, please contact: www.couplecheckup.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #couplecheckup #strongerrelationships

        Technoference in Parenting: Is Your Mobile Device Distracting You From Your Child?

        Parent technology use and child behavior are intricately connected, according to a new study. Even minor interruptions in parent-child interactions are intricately linked with child behaviour.

        Heavy parent digital technology use has been associated with suboptimal parent-child interactions, but no studies examine associations with child behavior. This study by the Institute for Family Studies in the US investigates whether parental problematic technology use is associated with technology-based interruptions in parent-child interactions, termed “technoference,” and whether technoference is associated with child behavior problems.

        In one study 65 percent of mothers stated that technology devices interrupted their interactions with their child during playtime sometimes or more often, and 22 percent said this happened at least sometimes even during disciplining their child.

        Parent reports from 170 U.S. families (child Mean age = 3.04 years) and actor-partner interdependence modeling showed that maternal and paternal problematic digital technology use predicted greater technoference in mother-child and father-child interactions; then, maternal technoference predicted both mothers’ and fathers’ reports of child externalising and internalising behaviors. Results suggest that technological interruptions are associated with child problem behaviors, but directionality and transactional processes should be examined in future longitudinal studies.

        In summary, these findings suggest that parent technology use and child behavior are intricately connected, showing associations between technoference and potential relationship problems in couples and parenting.

        Source: McDaniel, B. T., & Radesky, J. S. (2017). Technoference: Parent Distraction With Technology and Associations With Child Behavior Problems. Child Development

        Read more: www.ifstudies.org/blog/technoference-in-parenting-is-your-mobile-device-distracting-you-from-your-child

        Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.

          Tune in for more tips next week… or contact me Shane Smith shane@intentional-relationship.com or @ www.workofheart.net.www.workofheart.net.au

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          Take the Couple Checkup

          Take the Couple Checkup

          Simply click on the Register button below relevant to your relationship – it couldn’t be easier. Once you have finished the questions you should receive your comprehensive personalised report in about 30 seconds.

          Take the Couple Checkup

          The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy. 

          The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.

          For more information on the use and analysis of the Couple Checkup or to simply use the tool, please contact: www.couplecheckup.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #couplecheckup #strongerrelationships