Redesign family systems: Eight ways to enrich marriage and family relationships

Reconsidering and reshaping our family systems can get us on a path to achieving our goals and will free us up to be a more effective spouse, parent and worker. Redesigning family systems and restating our family goals and plans, can bring about significant changes to our every day life.

All Relationships including those with your spouse and children (and others) tend towards entropy, disorder and dissolution. Marriage and divorces can be disastrous for those concerned, especially for children. Being intentional and principle centred can revitalise and enrich your marriage, ensuring your marriage is sustained and endures.

Adapted from the late Stephen R. Coveys book, Principle Centred Leadership, the following 8 ways to Enrich Marriage and Family Relationships provides a guide to principles that are important to marriage. Each principle requires reflection, discussion and action.

These eight principles help to make marriage last:

Principle 5 – Redesign family systems:

The way we communicate and solve problems in our home is vital to ensure a lasting, satisfying marriage. Additionally the modeling we provide our children shapes them and sets them up for their own relationships. By reviewing our family systems, goals and plans, discipline systems and the way we model appropriate behavior, can revitalise marriage and sustain it.

Delegation of tasks and bringing more order to the everyday workings of our home can provide the jolt that our family needs. Simply through the process of engaging all family members to review family systems ensures everyone has a voice, is heard and can impact in ensuring a more pleasant home environment.

State and restate your goals and plans. Think and talk about the short, mid and long term objectives and things that need to happen now to achieve the larger, more audacious goals.

In summary, redesign family systems, review goals and plans, rethink stewardship and discipline, teaching and training and the way we model appropriate behavior. Reflect, discuss and take intentional steps to change, revitalise and enrich our marriage, ensuring marriage is sustained and endures.

Principle six, next week…

More tips at

Consider the Better Marriages, Australia workshop in Sydney 31 October 2015 at the Miranda, details on the website at: Twitter, Tweet, Hot Monogamy and Adventure & Fun in Marriage plus the Better Marriages AGM


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