Go quickly down the following list of statements and indicate honestly your level of agreement beside each one. Compare your responses with those your spouse has made independently on another sheet. For those items where you both ‘agree’ or ‘strongly agree’ try to think of an example to share with your partner.
Note the items for which your response differs from your partners and in the next few days schedule a time (preferably after a meal) to talk constructively together about the topic and what you both could do about it for the benefit of the less satisfied partner. Similarly, arrange to talk as constructively as you can about items that both have marked ‘disagree’ or ‘strongly disagree’.
Select ‘Strongly disagree’, ‘Disagree’, ‘Undecided’, ‘Agree’ or ‘Strongly agree’
- I am very satisfied with how my partner and I communicate
- We are creative in how we cope with our differences
- We feel very connected to one another
- My partner seldom seems too controlling
- My partner is able to understand my opinions and ideas when we discuss problems
- Our sexual relationship is satisfying and fulfilling to me
- We have a good balance of leisure time spent together and separately
- My partner’s friends or family rarely interfere with our relationship
- We usually agree on how to spend money
- I am satisfied with how we express spiritual values and beliefs
If there are a number of these, please consider getting the help of a qualified third party; don’t risk these issues becoming terminal. NB. Don’t attempt to discuss more than any one topic in a sitting.
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