Are you sharing decision making and leadership in your relationship? If this is an issue for you, you may need to explore relationship roles with your partner

Exploring relationship roles and your expectations about how decision making and responsibilities will be shared is vital towards understanding each other’s preferences for traditional or equalitarian roles in your relationship.

Equalitarian:  A career can be equally important to both partners.

  • Can you share why having a career is important to you?
  • Do you see your partner’s career being more important than yours and if so why?
  • How will you balance your career(s) with your family life?
  • Equalitarian: There is flexibility in your roles and responsibilities.

  • Do you feel that your roles are too flexible or too rigid? If so, why?
  • What do you feel needs to be done to handle your roles and responsibilities better?
  • What types of roles and responsibilities are you used to fulfilling?
  • Traditional: A marriage functions best if one person assumes the role as head of the household.

  • Can you share your expectations for who will be the “head of the household”?
  • Have you discussed your feelings about leadership and decision making?
  • On what do you base your opinion in this area?
  • If you expect to have an equal relationship, where we you and your partner share leadership and decision making or you feel that you would be happier if there was a more even balance of power in your relationship, then you need to explorer these issues in more depth. Often our traditional or equalitarian behaviours are bought into out relationship from our family of origin.

    If both partners are working, and one partner is doing a greater share of household tasks for example, then this inequity needs to be raised with your partner. Have you shared with each other what you would like for your roles to be regarding household chores? If not then you may need to or seek assistance from a marriage educator or relationship counselor.

    One approach is to complete the PREPARE/ENRICH assessment. PREPARE/ENRICH is a customised online assessment tool that identifies each couples unique strength and growth areas. Based on their assessment results, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills.

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