Day 15: A better life with my wife in 30-days – Validation

At the end of the day, it’s the small stuff that sends a message about whom we care about most.

Over the next 30-Days, join me in a journey to becoming a more humble and caring husband, a husband that is fully engaged in his relationship. A husband who considers his wife and is aware of what he does and how that impacts his wife’s life. Working towards ensuring his wife knows she is important.

Learning to appreciate that incremental, small changes can make a difference, join me and take these small steps to improving your life with your wife. Start today and make changes that will last a lifetime.

    Day 15: Validation. Today it’s back to basics but by now something that may be easier considering the focus on your behavior over the past two weeks and the impact it has on your relationship.

    Today, validate your spouse’s emotions by looking at each situation from her viewpoint. Often, simply empathizing is enough. You don’t have to solve the problem. Simply repeat her words as you understand them.

    If you are struggling to understand, just repeat what your wife has said. Your wife will tell you whether your interpretation of her feelings is correct. That’s it, no additional response required from you – validate the feeling.

    Termed active listening this approach ensures full understanding of what is being said and ensures a considered response, if a response is required. Validation foils criticism, contempt and defensiveness because you have taken the time to understand and hence your response can be modified or softened.

Start today and make those incremental, small but significant changes to improving your life with your wife. Tune in for Day 16 tomorrow…

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