Day 8: A better life with my wife in 30-days – Speak nondefensively

At the end of the day, it’s the small stuff that sends a message about whom we care about most.

Over the next 30-Days, join me in a journey to becoming a more humble and caring husband, a husband that is fully engaged in his relationship. A husband who considers his wife and is aware of what he does and how that impacts his wife’s life. Working towards ensuring his wife knows she is important.

Learning to appreciate that incremental, small changes can make a difference, join me and take these small steps to improving your life with your wife. Start today and make changes that will last a lifetime.

    Day 8: Speak nondefensively Today listen and speak to your spouse in a way that does not engender defensiveness but, instead, fosters healthy discussion. “Praise and admiration” are the best weapons against defensiveness. Remind yourself of your spouse’s wonderful qualities to help keep negative thoughts at bay. Empathize. Realize that your partner’s anger might be an effort to get your attention. Adopt a receptive body posture and an open facial expression. Limit yourself to a specific complaint rather than a multitude of criticisms. Try these approaches:

    • Remove the blame from your comments.
    • Say how you feel.
    • Don’t criticize your partner’s personality.
    • Don’t insult, mock or use sarcasm.
    • Be direct.
    • Don’t mind-read.

Start today and make those incremental, small but significant changes to improving your life with your wife. Tune in for Day 9, tomorrow…

More tips at Intentional-Relationship.com

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