Eight ways to Enrich Marriage and Family Relationships (Principle 5)

Reconsidering and reshaping our family systems can get us on a path to achieving our goals and will free us up to be a more effective spouse, parent and worker. Redesigning family systems and restating our family goals and plans, can bring about significant changes to our every day life.

All Relationships including those with your spouse and children (and others) tend towards entropy, disorder and dissolution. Marriage and divorces can be disastrous for those concerned, especially for children. Being intentional and principle centred can revitalise and enrich your marriage, ensuring your marriage is sustained and endures.

Adapted from the late Stephen R. Coveys book, Principle Centred Leadership, the following 8 ways to Enrich Marriage and Family Relationships provides a guide to principles that are important to marriage. Each principle requires reflection, discussion and action.

These eight principles help to make marriage last:

Principle 5 – Redesign family systems:

The way we communicate and solve problems in our home is vital to ensure a lasting, satisfying marriage. Additionally the modeling we provide our children shapes them and sets them up for their own relationships. By reviewing our family systems, goals and plans, discipline systems and the way we model appropriate behavior, can revitalise marriage and sustain it.

Delegation of tasks and bringing more order to the everyday workings of our home can provide the jolt that our family needs. Simply through the process of engaging all family members to review family systems ensures everyone has a voice, is heard and can impact in ensuring a more pleasant home environment.

State and restate your goals and plans. Think and talk about the short, mid and long term objectives and things that need to happen now to achieve the larger, more audacious goals.

In summary, redesign family systems, review goals and plans, rethink stewardship and discipline, teaching and training and the way we model appropriate behavior. Reflect, discuss and take intentional steps to change, revitalise and enrich our marriage, ensuring marriage is sustained and endures.

Principle six, next week…

More tips at Intentional-Relationship.com

Consider the Better Marriages, Australia Conference in Sydney 7-8 September 2013 at the Newport Mirage, details on the website at: Better Marriages, Australia Conference 2013

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4 thoughts on “Eight ways to Enrich Marriage and Family Relationships (Principle 5)

  1. healthy relationship tips

    Sometimes it hurts if you really love someone. However, you can choose the person that you are to love. Right from the start it is very important to know your compatibility with the person you love so that you will not cry at the end.

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    1. intentional-relationship.com Post author

      Very true. Like all relationships, marriages need work and it takes more than love to sustain your marriage over the long term. Statistics show that many marriages fail in the first 4 years after the honeymoon. Love is critical however so is complacency. Taking intentional steps to sustain your marriage takes courage. Taking a premarriage assessment like PREPARE/ENRICH can expose the strength and growth for you as a couple early on. Building awareness and developing skills along with love, sounds like a nice mix that can ensure a successful marriage.

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    2. intentional-relationship.com Post author

      Commitment, good and frequent communication and effective ways to handle conflict are real issues that we must face in relationships at all stages of their maturity. At the core of our relationship and these is issues love. Love, along with respect drives effective communication ensuring we listen and are open to our partners wants and needs. Ensuring

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    3. intentional-relationship.com Post author

      A helpful resource for assessing our strength and growth areas is the “PREPARE/ENRICH” assessment. This can be completed at all stages of a relationship however it is particularly helpful when you are starting out. It assists with awareness of oneself and our partner, from issues such as family of origin to conflict styles. It also assists in building skills to equip us better for the future demands of marriage. Check it out at: http://www.prepare-enrich.com.au

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