Reconsidering and reshaping our roles in family and work life can free us up to be a more effective spouse, parent and worker. If you are the person that feels you are doing all the work and you end up feeling tired and exhausted at the end of everyday, its time to review your role. Whether producer, manager or leader, understand your role and ascertain whether this is the best role for you. Perhaps moving from producer to a manager who delegates, trains and guides your family is best for you and your family. Or even as a leader who provides direction and vision, through love and inspiration will work best. Reconsidering and reshaping your roles takes thought and intentional action.
All Relationships including those with your spouse and children (and others) tend towards entropy, disorder and dissolution. Marriage and divorces can be disastrous for those concerned, especially for children. Being intentional and principle centred can revitalise and enrich your marriage, ensuring your marriage is sustained and endures.
Adapted from the late Stephen R. Coveys book, Principle Centred Leadership, the following 8 ways to Enrich Marriage and Family Relationships provides a guide to principles that are important to marriage. Each principle requires reflection, discussion and action.
These eight principles help to make marriage last:
Principle 3 – Reconsider your roles:
Producer, manager, leader. Producer does the work and ends up tired and exhausted. The manager delegates, trains, communicates and compensates. The leader’s role is to provide direction through modelling and vision, to motivate through love and inspiration, to build complementary teams based on mutual respect.
This principle requires reflection, discussion and action. Reconsider and reshape your roles and take time out to discuss with your family, friends and colleagues and take intentional steps to readjust your roles. Be intentional, make it happen.
Principle four, next week…
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Consider the Better Marriages, Australia Conference in Sydney 7-8 September 2013 at the Newport Mirage, details on the website at: Better Marriages, Australia Conference 2013