All Relationships including those with your spouse and children (and others) tend towards entropy, disorder and dissolution. Marriage and divorces can be disastrous for those concerned, especially for children. Being intentional and principle centred can revitalise and enrich your marriage, ensuring your marriage is sustained and endures.
Adapted from the late Stephen R. Coveys book, Principle Centred Leadership, the following 8 ways to Enrich Marriage and Family Relationships provides a guide to principles that are important to marriage. Each principle requires reflection, discussion and action.
These eight principles help to make marriage last:
Principle 1 – Retain a long-term perspective: Rise above the inevitable rigors, struggles and challenges and focus ahead. Balance the long and short.
Often we find we live our lives narrowly focusing on work or home. The daily grind becomes our focus to the exclusion of others. For marriage, it is essential that we continually review and draw our attention to our physical, intellectual, social and spiritual selves to ensure entropy is arrested. Taking a long term view on our mind, body and spirit and striving for growth, change, and continuous improvement is challenging but necessary.
Focusing on short-term tasks and ‘to dos’ must happen but it needn’t be to the exclusion of focus on long-term goals. In fact some of these tasks need to be actioned today to reach those long term goals tomorrow.
The importance of renewal in our lives can not be underestimated. Learning, growing and developing new capabilities and expanding on the old ones is the process through which continued success is made possible.
If weekly couple dialogue is part if your routine, include an agenda item to discuss the future, the next six months to five years. How are you going towards meeting those goals? What needs to be done and changed now? if you don’t schedule regular dialogue, meet at least every six months (over a coffee, dinner etc) to review your goals.
Retain a long-term perspective and rise above the inevitable rigors of daily life. Be intentional and add it to your agenda today.
Principle two, next week…
More tips at Intentional-Relationship.com
Consider the Better Marriages, Australia Conference in Sydney 7-8 September 2013 at the Newport Mirage, details on the website at: Better Marriages, Australia Conference 2013