Make 2013 the ‘Year of your Marriage’ (part 2)

How many of you have set a plan for the year that is to come, a plan for your family, and a plan for your marriage – A Marriage Plan?

How does one go about creating a Marriage Plan? Following on from last weeks blog first, you need to allocate time for you and your partner to be together without any distractions. Create the right scene and space without the kids, disconnected from technology – that’s right, no laptop or smartphone – and focus on the year ahead and the goals you are hoping to achieve. Spend some time praying about and discussing the following categories of your life:

Child(ren): Discuss education and the learning and development opportunities you want to give to your kids. Talk about discipline and rewards and how you can improve this.

Create or Evaluate Your Budget:: Review your incomings and outgoings and take time to look at your entire financial picture and what is anticipated throughout the year – particularly major expenses.

Choose a Marriage Book or a way to read the bible Together: Schedule time to read it or read one chapter each week for the next few months. After each chapter, discuss what you learned.

Plan Your Next Marriage Retreat!: Seek one and load it into your diary.

Discuss the long-term: Discuss the year ahead and beyond. Talk about travel, further study, church, community, exercise and your dreams. What does your life look like during the next five to ten years? What do you need to eliminate? What do you need to start doing?

Create a Marriage/Family Vision Statement: Start to create a mission statement that describes what you value, describes what you stand for and what your family is all about, your reason for being. Select a passage of scripture or statement that describes how you want your family to operate. It should be a statement that guides, governs and inspires every member of the family. A measuring stick to determine how your family interacts and how you spend your time.

You can customize this list to suit your family, but back to the first point – take time out to be together without any distractions. Be it a coffee shop, restaurant, a field, a boat. Do it today and feel the intimacy override you and your partner. This could be the best day of the year!

You don’t have to get it right the first time. This is part of life’s journey of learning and developing. You will get there if you are willing to invest the time and effort to developing the plan.

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