Nine things successful couples do differently

Communication is the answer to a successful marriage – but you already knew that! Whilst the absence of communication may be a leading cause of divorce, fulfilling your wedding vows is easier if your marriage is based on open communication. Learning to communicate well with your partner is not as easy as it sounds, but it can help resolve problems before they start to affect your marriage.

Heidi Halvorson’s book, 9 Things Successful People do Differently[1] provides a clear, practical guide for people to reach their goals and not surprisingly, successful people reach their goals not simply because of who they are, but more often because of what they do. Developed for business people – I have adapted it to marriage and in marriage it’s about being intentional about your relationship, communicating well and often.

Over the next 9 weeks I’ll share the things successful couples do differently.

1. They are specific: Successful couples set specific goals and take a long-term perspective. Their marriage involves two people who are both equal and can make suggestions. They listen to their spouse’s comments and desires, and this helps level the playing field. They are open, direct and honest about their feelings, for example – when they need space, they say so. If ever their point of view is different to their spouse, they try to understand and then they aim to reach a reasonable compromise. They are equals in their relationship and they understand that it always takes two people to make decisions that can shape their marriage.

[1] Halvorson, H.G. (2011). 9 Things Successful People do Differently. Boston, Massachusetts: Harvard Business Review Press.

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2 thoughts on “Nine things successful couples do differently

  1. Buxxy

    Hi Buzz, Good approach…I like the 9 week thing. As for us…we are good with our long term perspective. Good with listening to each others ”stuff”. You’re doing a great job with this. Very impressed. love Buxxy

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