If we recognise that conflict is inevitable and that we won’t always see eye to eye, then a reflection on the process of reconciling our differences is key. Many like Gottman believe that we grow in our relationship through reconciling our differences and that lasting relationships result from our ability to resolve the conflict.
Consider an entirely new attitude regarding your relationship conflict: Take a deep breath and seek to work out issues to the mutual satisfaction of both partners as they arise – be alert to the early warning signs. Be intentional about reconciling differences and work towards resolving conflict in the best possible way… seek growth.
Adapted from Gottman, J. 2007: ‘Why marriages Succeed or Fail’; Bloomsbury, London.