The inertia of cohabitation: a couple who is cohabiting will have a harder time breaking up than a couple who is only dating

Cohabiting relationships break up all the time, and increasingly so, but the relative difference is the point. All other things being the same, a couple who is cohabiting will have a harder time breaking up than a couple who is only dating.

Because many people cohabit before even having mutual clarity about commitment, such as through engagement or marriage, some people end up staying in relationships, including on into marriage, that they otherwise would have left behind.

Many people slide into situations that make it harder to end a relationship before they have made a clear decision about what is best. The situation looks quite a bit different for those who have strongly clarified mutual commitment to the future before moving in together, such as by being engaged or even—gasp—being married.

Reference: Testing a Relationship Is Probably the Worst Reason to Cohabit by Scott Stanley.

Scott M. Stanley is a research professor at the University of Denver and fellow of the Institute for Family Studies (@DecideOrSlide). Galena K. Rhoades is a research associate professor at the University of Denver.

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This “success sequence” – high school, marriage, and only then baby carriage – holds true today

This “success sequence” – high school, marriage, and only then baby carriage – holds true today, where women are three times more likely to have babies out of wedlock than three wealthier peers. Poor women are five times more likely than wealthy women to have babies outside marriage. Both poor and middle class women are twice as likely to be cohabiting than their richer sisters (McLean, D.C., 2017).

Marriage has a “extraordinary economic power,” Stanton wrote. “It boosts every important measure of well-being for women, children and men.” That includes income, health, savings, employment, educational success, happiness, recovery from serious illness – even a healthy diet.

Marriage creates wealth because marriage encourages partners to become better, more committed workers, providers and savers. Men particularly are less likely to fall into substance abuse, and are less likely either to commit or fall victim to crime, they have better health and they’re even less accident-prone.

Source: McLean, D.C., 2017: Research proves social conservatives right: Marriage helps families escape poverty.

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Marriage has a “extraordinary economic power”

In the early 1990s, sociologist Bill Galston said that to stay out, or climb out, of poverty, people needed to do only three things:

  1. graduate from high school
  2. marry before having a child, and
  3. have that first child after the age of 20.

Only 8% of people who follow these rules will be poor, Galston claimed, whereas 79% who fail in all three respects will certainly live in poverty.

Will the pending change to the Marriage Act and ongoing legislative debate, Australia has an opportunity to strengthen what it means to marry and regardless of the outcome, enabling people who choose to have children, to be aware of the potential negative consequences is necessary.

This “success sequence” – high school, marriage, and only then baby carriage – holds true today, where women are three times more likely to have babies out of wedlock than three wealthier peers. Poor women are five times more likely than wealthy women to have babies outside marriage. Both poor and middle class women are twice as likely to be cohabiting than their richer sisters (McLean, D.C., 2017).

Source: McLean, D.C., 2017: Research proves social conservatives right: Marriage helps families escape poverty.

READ THE FULL ARTICLE HERE >

www.lifesitenews.com/news/reseach-proves-social-conservatives-right-marriage-helps-families-out-of-po

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MAREAA NATIONAL CONFERENCE 2017, November 22-23: Australian workshop Speaker Mandi Smith, Individual and Couple Counsellor, Relationship Educator and Director of PREPARE/ENRICH Australia

The transition to parenthood for couples is a time of great excitement however the challenges and demands can lead to a decline in marital satisfaction. Couples can lose sight of their potential as their new roles take their relationship on a path they may not have experienced yet. This can be particularly complex for blended families.

The PREPARE/ENRICH Parenting Version is a relationship inventory which helps couples gain some awareness in how they are going as a couple as well as giving them insight into how they view their relationship with their children. The program guides couples through the challenges of parenting and the intersection of marital and parental dynamics, raising awareness and building relationship skills. It empowers parents providing them with insight into their parenting style, family system, and couple relationship. This workshop will give some practical tips on working with couples whose primary concerns are parenting, using the PREPARE/ENRICH Parenting module.

See Mandi Smith at the MAREAA 2017 Conference and her workshop: I loved you before we where parents – The transition to parenthood for couples.

Conference agenda available now.

MAREAA 2017 National Conference Registration

MAREAA NATIONAL CONFERENCE 2017, November 22-23 Melbourne Convention and Exhibition Centre

Register now to join the peak marriage and relationship educators conference exploring the well-being of Children, Men and Women, Families and Communities.

MAREAA Conference Registration Rates:

Registration Closes 5pm 17 Nov 2017

  • Member Conference $589.00
  • Non-Member Conference* $684.00
  • Join us for a fabulous start to the day, networking over a delicious breakfast at one of Melbourne’s premiere and award winning bar and café’s The Boat Builders’ Yard, just steps from the conference venue $40.00

*Includes 12 months membership to MAREAA.

MAREAA Members Only ‘6 for 5’ promotion registration Want to send more than one person? The Conference registration also offers a ‘6 for 5’ promotion for MAREAA Members only. Simply enter the names of 5 members you will register in one transaction and when complete, you’ll receive a link and code in your confirmation email to register your 6th attendee. Available at both Early Bird and Standard Rates.

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Australian Keynote Speaker Alison Campbell Rate Executive Director, Open Doors Counselling and Educational Services Inc.

What have broken eggs got to do with resilience? Absolutely everything!

Come along and find out why at the RAISING RESILIENT FAMILIES parent education seminar, an opportunity to learn about your child’s emotional resilience – what to do (and what NOT to do!) to help them grow more of it.

Be ready to participate in an engaging, interactive time with other parents as we learn some new ideas, pool our expertise, uncover some cool secret weapons in the war against helplessness, and reflect, discuss and share together.

Alison has been associated with Open Doors Counselling and Educational Services since 1987 in a number of roles. Alison heads up Open Doors’ educational services for schools, manages communications and special projects and is currently serving on an honorary basis as the Executive Director of the Open Doors Committee of Management. Alison has presented to thousands of parents, children and teachers over the years and is passionate about promoting effective parent child communication and strengthening the decision making capacity of young people.

Conference agenda available now.

MAREAA Conference Registration Rates:

Registration Closes 5pm, 8 November 2017

  • Member Conference $649
  • Non-Member Conference* $724
  • Member Day rate $359
  • Non member day rate $399
  • Join us for a fabulous start to the day, networking over a delicious breakfast at one of Melbourne’s premiere and award winning bar and café’s The Boat Builders’ Yard, just steps from the conference venue $45

*Includes 12 months membership to MAREAA.

MAREAA Members Only ‘6 for 5’ promotion registration Want to send more than one person? The Conference registration also offers a ‘6 for 5’ promotion for MAREAA Members only. Simply enter the names of 5 members you will register in one transaction and when complete, you’ll receive a link and code in your confirmation email to register your 6th attendee. Available at both Early Bird and Standard Rates.

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Conference Partner The Department of Social Services aspires to be Australia’s pre-eminent social policy agency. Our mission is to improve the lifetime wellbeing of people and families in Australia. http://www.dss.gov.au

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Calling all relationship educators… come and see Australian Keynote Speaker Timothy O’Leary Therapist, Author and Educator

Timothy O’Leary is an author, therapist and educator based in Melbourne, Australia, and is featured on the Hay House World Summit. His new book, The Relationship First-Aid Kit is being launched by Hay House Australia in December this year. In the book, Tim shows couples how to build their emotional problem-solving skills so that couples can stop fighting and deepen their love. He is the author of the book, Dads Who Can and worked with the Raising Children Network’s “Dads Guide to pregnancy” as well as running classes for new dads. http://www.timothyoleary.com.au

Register now to join the peak marriage and relationship educators conference exploring the well-being of Children, Men and Women, Families and Communities.

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MAREAA special promotion Conference Registration Rates available now:

Registration costs Closes 5pm, 8 November 2017

  • Member Conference $589.00
  • Non-Member Conference* $684.00
  • Join us for a fabulous start to the day, networking over a delicious breakfast at one of Melbourne’s premiere and award winning bar and café’s The Boat Builders’ Yard, just steps from the conference venue $40.00

*Includes 12 months membership to MAREAA.

MAREAA Members Only ‘6 for 5’ promotion registration Want to send more than one person? The Conference registration also offers a ‘6 for 5’ promotion for MAREAA Members only. Simply enter the names of 5 members you will register in one transaction and when complete, you’ll receive a link and code in your confirmation email to register your 6th attendee. Available at both Early Bird and Standard Rates.

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Conference Partner The Department of Social Services aspires to be Australia’s pre-eminent social policy agency. Our mission is to improve the lifetime wellbeing of people and families in Australia. http://www.dss.gov.au

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Being positive is not for the faint hearted! See Chloe Shorten in November at the MAREAA NATIONAL CONFERENCE 2017, November 22-23 Melbourne Convention and Exhibition Centre

These days, families come in all shapes and sizes. They move from one state to create a family in another. They combine into new homes, take holidays with blends of children and parents from different households.

Register now to see Chloe Shorten speak at the MAREAA Conference 2017 in November and join the peak marriage and relationship educators conference exploring the well-being of Children, Men and Women, Families and Communities.

Australian Keynote Speaker Chloe Shorten Australian corporate affairs specialist and Strategic Advisor

An Australian corporate affairs specialist, a member of the Burnet Institute‘s Engagement Committee and Strategic Advisor for their Healthy Mothers, Healthy Babies Program, and wife of Opposition leader Bill Shorten

Conference agenda available now.

MAREAA Conference Registration Rates:

Registration Closes 5pm, 8 November 2017

  • Member Conference $649
  • Non-Member Conference* $724
  • Member Day rate $359
  • Non member day rate $399
  • Join us for a fabulous start to the day, networking over a delicious breakfast at one of Melbourne’s premiere and award winning bar and café’s The Boat Builders’ Yard, just steps from the conference venue $45

*Includes 12 months membership to MAREAA.

MAREAA Members Only ‘6 for 5’ promotion registration Want to send more than one person? The Conference registration also offers a ‘6 for 5’ promotion for MAREAA Members only. Simply enter the names of 5 members you will register in one transaction and when complete, you’ll receive a link and code in your confirmation email to register your 6th attendee. Available at both Early Bird and Standard Rates.

Conference agenda coming soon

CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE TO THE MAREAA CONFERENCE UPDATE

Conference Partner The Department of Social Services aspires to be Australia’s pre-eminent social policy agency. Our mission is to improve the lifetime wellbeing of people and families in Australia. http://www.dss.gov.au

Questions?

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