Luckily, premarital education doesn’t have to be a one-and-done situation. Think of it more as planting a seed: you prepare the soil and give it water, sunlight, and fertiliser to provide it with the best chance to thrive. But the plant will continue to require care and nurturing to grow to its full potential.
Marriage educators who provide guidance and support for couples at this stage can effect their relationship for years to come. Here are some ways that premarital education can be an ongoing experience of growth for couples:
- Most couples do not seek out premarital education on their own; they do it because they are required to however the experience is often one that will stick with them long after the big day, instead of just another hoop to jump through.
- Marriage educators can refer couples to proven resources such as books, podcasts, assessments, etc. so they can continue growing in their relationship beyond the wedding.
- Having an ongoing relationship with a “mentor couple” – a couple whose relationship they consider a “role model” for their own is very effective.
- Marriage educators can connect couples to a community, such as other engaged or newly-married couples at a church or through a family and relationship services organisation.
For more details on this exercise, refer to the PREPARE/ENRICH Discussion Guide for Couples.
#PREPARE/ENRICH is a customised online assessment tool that identifies each couples unique strength and growth areas. Based on their assessment results, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills.